Understanding human beings part 2

 16. Any experience seen through conditioning may appear to be a threat. The more misconceptions (viewed as threats) occur, the more adaptation takes place. As long as the conditioning remains, it has to be defended—creating a viscous cycle which can be broken only when true perception of experiences occurs. The viscous cycle appears to be necessary until Truth steps in and shows up the False feelings of emergency.

17. With the absence of fear (threat, judging, criticism), experiences may be seen through true perception and the individual can assimilate and utilize such experiences. 

18. With true perception comes understanding of the self and others.

19. With true perception, the individual replaces the conditioned self values (false feelings of emergency) with True feeling, or seeing things as they are and with adequate response to the real stimuli.

Nineteen points to understanding human behavior part 1

 1. Everyone lives in his own world. It is ‘his’ because only he can experience it.

2. Everyone perceives reality through his own conditional vision. 

3. Everyone reacts as a whole being to his reality.

4. The person has one drive. He can work toward or away from self determined integration.

5. Behavior is the method of satisfying needs as seen by the individual, based on his conditioning…most of the time.

6. Emotion governs the degree of intensity of behavior. Emotion is of two types. Unpleasant or excited or calm and satisfied. Emotional behavior affects the conditioned mind regardless of body needs at the time.

7. The best way to understand people is to ‘walk a mile in their mocassins’. He is aware that their behavior is to them right, proper, or justifiable for the time, place, and circumstances.

8. Certain decisions are made regarding experiences. These decisions are motivating forces in conditioning the self.

9. As a result of decisions made by experiencing (usually in infancy and non verbalized) the conditioned self is formed and behaves according to these decisions.

10. Some values are achieved by self experience..others by belief in’authorities’ and judged as if self experienced. 

11. Experiences are either 1. Applied and used. 2. Passed by because they contradict previous conditioning.

12. Most behavior is governed by feeling rather than by physical needs. 

13. Some behavior, motivated by distortions of experiences (11-13) will be denied by the individual because of its inconsistencies. 

14. Psychological maladjustments occurs when the individual denies awareness and lives by distorted conditioning based on the fourth through the sixth decisions.

15. Adjustment occurs (develops) and integration begins when an individual becomes aware of his conditioning and decisions, realizes he is no longer must be controlled by them, finds out who he is, where he is, what he is doing, and what he can do.

From the picture of man for 12 steppers

 

The Science of man says you are fully capable of being responsible enough to evaluate what’s to your advantage; that you can transcend the usual reaction to threat and promise by responding instead. The definition of reaction is to unconsciously act on the stimulus of threat or promise. The definition of response is to consciously evaluate a stimulus as to its advantage. 

Be always on the lookout for threats and promises. They are trying usurp your innate good sense.

Some random quotes

You can have your inner state any way you want it, you can be fearful, resentful, or you can be a bundle of joy.

Anxiety makes stress on the body.

Your mood is your inner state of being. Keep your mood up. Your mood is about the nicest thing you can have if it feels wonderful, it’s the most lousy thing you can have if it feels terrible. You are your inner state of being.

Inner state of being: I can choose to determine it and that is truly freedom.

If I see you as a threat, then I feed pretty bad, if I see you as a friend, I feel pretty wonderful. 

Forgiving-excerpt from talk

 The world Carries grudges. We are taught this “accounts receivable”. We’re all carrying around a bunch of them. If there’s understanding, that everyone is doing what they feel is right, proper, or justifiable with what light they have-then you could be forgiving. 

(Also mentioned in this talk was reverence for all life, living something = spirit) and that reverence means being thankful)

More misc quotes

 Agape is a realization. That the person was only doing what he or she felt was right, proper, or justified at the time of doing so. 

It’s a recognition. It’s a pure intellectual seeing. 

That you cannot do something that you feel to be wrong, improper, or unjustifiable. 

Anytime there’s a false picture it’s vanity. If it’s just I’m here, there’s no vanity.

Well people are not going to be different, and I’m going to be fine without them being different. Let everybody be what they are.

Trying to stop something is a waste of time. Just go do the other.

Misc quotes

 Take an inventory of all the wonderful things today.

Make a purpose to have a wonderful inner state of being and keep it that way.

Don’t let anybody tear up your inner state.

Justifying is saying I’m helpless. Justifying is a way of lying. 

Our nature is to be an attention payer. 

I’m being disobedient to my nature when I’m asleep, not paying attention.

Now we’re going to look at it and the only way we can look at anything without getting involved some way or other is to neither condemn what we see or justify what we see, it simply is.

If it’s interesting you feel pretty good. Make it interesting, not important. Put all struggle aside.