Dallas 92 excerpt how to get in vital interest

There's three things you can do, you can think, you can act, and you can feel.

Teaching idea #71

The only thing that can be integrated is purpose and will. Then there is real I. Real I is not controlled by shoulds, oughts, have tos and musts. When purpose and will are integrated there is a real I.

Teaching idea #1-7

Misery is when I'm trying to avoid discomfort.

I am a spiritual being having a human experience.

We live in that which we radiate.

Human service is the way to divinity.

Prime misconception; that we can live on planet earth without being disturbed.

When my needs are great enough, and my wants are small enough, all difficulties are removed.

I refuse to react to other people's reatcion.

The four dual basic urges

Level	Gain	Escape
Physical	Comfort and Pleasure	Pain and Discomfort
Mental	Attention	Being Ignored or Rejected
Emotional	Approval	Disapproval
Transcendental	Being needed; Feeling Important; Appearance of being important	Inferiority: Insignificance

Reno 92 part 3

Now the child is taken to the church and the policeman and various and sundry 'authorities'. And it says you got to do what they tell you in order to be safe. Correct? You gotta do what they tell you. So, that comes up number 4. It says believe and do as you are told by your authorities. and if we look around we find that's a little touchy. It don't work that way. Now the four dual basic urges has been growin because we look at things that are comfortable to us and we call that attention. Cryin' will get you attention when you are a kid. And ignored is the painful thing. And we wanted to get approval, people tell us how wonderful we were and escape all dissaproval. And we wanted to gain importance and escape inferiority. Inferiority is quite a pain isn't it? So, all these we made very important. Now let's remember that we made them important. We made everything on this board is made important. It's important to complain to get my way, it's important to stick up for my rights, it's important to please them, and it's important to believe and do as I'm told by my authorities. And it's important to have all these. So, there's still a couple more of these up here so number the five is it's important to improve. Improve myself. Now, I don't how you would improve myself because you have conflict and you wanting to get rid of it. So you think to improve yourself and you'll get alright. You improve by believing and doing as told by your authorities, trying to do as your parents and everything they wanted. That don't work very well does it? It goes against your inner state. So, that one is another pain. But you still workin' to improve yourself aren't you? Maybe that's why you came here today was to improve yourself. I'm not gonna suggest that at all. You stay as you are or worse, and that'll be alright. But let's not go for improvement, alright? And then when we were about 7 or 8 years old we find out what it's all about. If he she they it etc, were all different, I'd be fine.

Reno 92 part 2

We're in the uterine world and enjoying it pretty well. You didn't have a thing to do, you didn't get hungry because you was fed through a little tube in your tummy, you didn't get short of breath because that was fed through the same way. You didn't get tired, you didn't get sleepy, if you did you slept, and that was all there was to it. So, life went on fairly well. We'll call that the four dual basic urges. We'll call it that because we'll get to it in a few minutes. The four dual basic urges. It says the purpose of living is to gain and escape pleasure and comfort, and escape pain. Now a child in it's being born experiences pain and discomfort, and the first thing it does is cry. Is that right Kristin? It cries. So it says things aren't going so well, and that cry is an unpleasant sound to us and so we generally hop to and go and see to get it comfortable if at all possible. Well that works pretty good, but now then you can cry and nobody pays much attention to you, is that right? (audience says 'I hate that') I know but that's what's there. Now the first method that the child tried to get to get over this pain was to complain. Now the complainin' worked pretty good for about two years, but after that it don't work so hot. You still complain about everyday is that right?  Mechanically feel uncomfortable you complain. Instead of seeing what's going on you complain. So we however many years old that's how long we've been using it. Since the day of birth until today we've been complaining. Okay? So that works along for awhile until the child makes another conclusion is to how to get it, it sticks up for it's rights. What it assumes is it's rights anyways because really we don't have any rights. We were born helpless, naked, totally without anything and we were found a couple of slaves that kind of took care of us. But we assumed we have a right to that. So we stick up for rights, that's when we get a little ticked. Do you ever get a little ticked because you don't get your rights? Doesn't do any good but we do it, is that correct? (that's correct) So now this is all still one sided here but we are trained by our parents that we've got to please them. When your about two years old, up until then we get along with this complainin' and stickin' up for our rights doin real well with it. But after awhile we find it doesn't work and our parents said you big enough now you can please me for awhile. So they use various and sundry methods to convince a child to please them. So the child makes another decision that says it's important to please them. "Cause they'll fuss at me if I don't. Now that brings conflict. This is the first  time they have real conflict. That brings conflict between stickin up for your rights and complainin' or doing what your parents want to do to please them. So now then there has to be a conflict or a question everytime you start to do something there is a little conflict that goes on. Shall I please them or shall I stick up for my rights? These days usually I think the kid keeps stickin' up for his rights and complainin' Used to they pushed it the other way around. Is that right John? Now then we don't push it so hard.