To the average conditioned mind, pity equals being loved. Therefore, we cling to all of the unpleasant things and frequently rehash them so that we can enjoy the self pity and thus feel loved, as when we were a child cuddled by a mother when hurt. Self pity is emotional masturbation. I have to resent in order to feel sorry for myself, which is SENTIMENTALITY. Sentimentality means a ‘sickly’ mentality. Most people equate sentimentality with love.