The nature of struggle, conflict, and resistance

A Three questions of torment

1 Did I do "right" when I did so and so? (past)
2 Am I doing "right" by doing so and so?(present)
3 Will I be doing "right" if I do so and so? (future)

B Attempt to change self

1 Self, with a small "s", is our feeling about things.
2 We did not create ourselves, nor can we change ourselves.
3 We can change our responses--X will change the self.

C  The fallacy of being bound by "shoulds" and "oughts".

1 The "shoulds" and "oughts" can be valuable to show us what might be to our advantage.
2 The "shoulds" and "oughts" might then become "coulds".

D The meaning of being "out of time".

As a car gets out of "time", so do people get "out of time".

1 Their attention is directed to what was or will be, thus missing the experience of this moment, of what is.
2 They are in a constant state of worry, struggle, conflict, and resistance about wasting time.
3 There is a mental preoccupation with the past and the future, living half numb to the reality around them.

E The futility of trying to live in the past and the future.

1 There is nothing we can do about the past.
2 By looking at the past, we judge what was then, is now.
3 Once we think we "know"someone or something, we close our minds to the thrill of discovery.
4 We look to the future for our "happiness"and tomorrow never comes.